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Gender: Male
Status: In a Relationship
Age: 29
Sign: Virgo

City: irvine
State: CALIFORNIA
Country: US
Signup Date: 10/3/2003
Monday, June 07, 2004 
so with random dribble that goes on work, every once in a while we hit up on a topic that is kinda good
anyhow... it was amazing that some were confused on an ex's jealousy, and how it can so vary with each ex. i thought it was funny because i had an answer, that took a while to realize; yet that never took to reality. my answer was this:

why is it so much harder for people to see a loved ex with someone else, as upposed to an ex-fling?

re-flec-tions n. the act of reflecting or the state of being reflected.

it's always been understood that you would want what you can't have. when you love someone, then lose them; you don't think that things can get worse until you see your ex with someone else. the problem with seeing this, is not really "my god, she moved on before me," or "i can't believe she would stoop down to a fool that low," or even "why she with him, i'm so much better." it's more of an opportunity lost. it's more like, "my god, i can't believe i lost her... how could anyone break up with her." that means, when you see your ex with someone else, rage doesn't come from the idea of tainted love... but lost love. if you had your chance and were back with her, you would have never let her go; but since she is with someone else, he might never let her go... and now your opportunity is lost. that is the source of your jealousy... that is the source of your rage... that is the hard way to learn regret.
5:57 AM
 
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