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January 10, 2009 - Saturday 

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Category: Life
LIFE AFTER INFECTION: TO TOUCH? OR NOT TO TOUCH?
By Doreen Mulman

A RECENT QUESTION FROM A FELLOW NF/MRSA SURVIVOR:

Do you find yourself not wanting to shake hands with people? I have observed as I was leaving the restroom a few times that not too many people wash their hands. That TOTALLY freaks me out! I want to scream at them! I have always been somewhat of a germaphobe but now it's heightened intensely! I get weird looks from people all the time... I totally cannot help myself! I wash and use Purell on my hands constantly as do my wife and kids... I was just wondering if I was a little more OCD than most... Thanks!

MY ANSWER:

It's really a two-way street for me.

I don't let people touch me AT ALL if possible. Unfortunately, I know A LOT of huggers. I hate being hugged. Sometimes it HURTS, especially if they press my arm or shoulder.

I try to avoid shaking hands, but it's not always possible. One day, my accountant shook my hand. A little later, he asked me about my arm. After I told him about it, he asked if he shook my hand. I said YES, and fully expected him to say, "Good, because you have been through so much, I want to congratulate you!" or something POSITIVE.

Instead, he got a bottle of Purell out of his drawer and proceeded to clean his hands RIGHT IN FRONT OF ME, as if I was still infectious and ill-mannered enough to touch people with my diseased hand. Pretty stupid to think I could even still be walking around with flesh eating bacteria. UH, DUH, I nearly died!!! They had to rid me of disease for me to live!

I AM A VERY RESPECTFUL HUMAN, I would never infect people if I had something that could be caught! HE REALLY HURT MY FEELINGS ON SO MANY LEVELS. It's been so hard for me to be near people ever since then. I basically HIDE IN MY HOUSE all the time.

Oh, and handwashing is a simple and effective way to stop the spread of skin infections. Everyone should wash their hands often, especially after touching common surfaces in stores and gyms, after touching money, or after touching someone they KNOW IS ILL with any type of infection, skin or internal.
MommaMeme

 
I would have to say I am more OCD then I ever was. My husband always made fun of me for cleaning so much but after the NF he totally understand. I carry Purell in my purse and I make him and our son use it after they come out of the bathroom. Even if they tell me they washed their hands. I know little boys only like to play in the water and dont use soap. Some stores have antibacteria wipes that you can use for the carts and if I see them I use them, if I dont see them I make sure that I use the Purell when I am finished. My son is always asking me, Mommy how come you are putting that on again? I tell him to because I want to protect him and me from getting sick. I try very hard not to shake hands but everyone at church wants to either hug you or shake your hand, its very hard. I TOTALLY UNDERSTAND AND CAN RELATE.

 
Posted by MommaMeme on January 10, 2009 - Saturday - 6:01 PM
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Debra and James
Debra and James Coy

 
I have to be honest, I know little if any information about NF/MRSA. The point I want to make is that many people are and can be cruel nowadays, BUT it's due to ignorance and fear. This does not justify what they say nor what they may do. I would think and imagine that you most likely are a kind caring, respectful soul. Honey our bodies are simply a vehicle to carry us around; our minds, emotions, spirituality and our inner soul are who we are and what we are all about. It's not my place to tell you what to think or what to do but the most important thing I'd like to share is who you are on the inside. The individuals who react towards you negatively, let the real you shine through, let confidence in yourself take time to educate people. Show that you are a survivor and this illness will not destroy you. I hope that I haven't said anything to hurt your feelings. I would like to know more...educate me. Hopefully we can be friends. From a friend, who also has had to overcome challenging experiences in life.
Debbie
 
Posted by Debra and James on January 22, 2009 - Thursday - 4:25 AM
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Veronica
Veronica Phillips- Griffin

 
I too am a NF survivor. For me, I almost feel as if I am over the top with OCD. After my life changing bout with MRSA, I find myself being fearful of things that others take for granted. Such as a trip to a public restroom. Even after wiping the seat with antibacterial wipes, I'll go home and take a bath and a shower.

 
Posted by Veronica on April 7, 2009 - Tuesday - 11:07 AM
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