Tips on dating a disabled guy:
1. ) Realize that he is just like every other guy! He has the same romantic dreams every other guy in the world has. He wants to fall in love too. Just because he is physically disabled, that does nothing to affect his hopes and dreams.
2. ) Don't treat him like he is stupid. Don't assume that just because he might be lacking in physical ability, that does nothing to affect his mind, he's probably very intelligent. And don't underestimate this guy either! You might be surprised...
3. ) If you don't know what is wrong, or what his condition is, ask him. Make sure you're alone with him and just politely bring it up. By now, he's answered all the questions millions of times and has the routine down pat. Don't worry that he'll get too emotional, because he probably won't. And even if you already know what's wrong, ask him anyways and get the whole story. He'll think it's odd if you're not interested.
4. ) Don't be overprotective. He doesn't need you to watch every step he takes, and he doesn't need your help with everything. His family is probably protective enough and he knows how to handle himself. Instead of asking him about his "limitations," observe him (not in a creepy way either). Just watch him and when you know he'll need a hand, just silently give it to him without any speaking. The "thank you" will be the most heartfelt words you will ever hear.
5. ) If your friends and family want to know about why he is the way he is, tell them when he isn't around so he doesn't get bombarded with questions. Yes he's used to them, but the fact that he is physically disabled isn't important and shouldn't be the focus of the conversation.
6. ) Don't try to make things 'easier' on him; he likes a challenge too. Realize that half the time, he doesn't even think about what he can and can't do, so realize and don't worry about it!
7. ) Don't be afraid that you will "hurt" him, if you do..he'll tell you or you'll see the look of pain in his face!
8. ) Just because he is physically disabled doesn't give you a reason to be a bitch to him at times, to ditch him for someone else, or to be "too nice." Don't feel sorry for him at any time because whatever he's gone through has probably made him stronger.
9. )Realize that he will get made fun of by ignorant people who don't even know him. He'll get stared at, laughed at, ridiculed, and treated unfairly. Know that as his girlfriend or even his friend you are subject to criticism too. Just ignore it because he probably does too by now, but don't fight all his battles for him; don't get all worked up. Let it slide unless he really shows that he's bothered or says something to you.