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Category: Dreams and the Supernatural
Greetings.
This blog is about personal morality & the Metaphysical world. Recently
someone has asked me if I have engaged in sex with a teacher to learn the arts
of Magic from and the full answer is no. I am a strict heterosexual and all of
my teachers have been male and each one of them have been heterosexual. Now
this is not to say that they did not engage in sex with a female student
because a couple of them did admit that to me. However each told me this was
way back when in their youth and in truth I too have had sex with a student or
two in the past when I was younger.
Years ago when I decided to be celibate with my girl friend who later became my
wife, that changed things for me as well it should. Why? Simple: I made a pact
with her to be celibate while we were together. After we split, however, all
bets were off for both of us. That was our agreement between us. Now I cannot
say how others should be because I am not some ethics professor or some high
falootin' moralistic dogmatic fool who shouts to the world how things ought to
be. In other words, I'm not a televangelist. ;)
When I was involved in Paganism in Florida, specifically in the Tampa Bay area,
I saw lots of rampant sexual contact - not in the way of orgies or anything -
but changing partners, switching from hetero to homo-sexual and so on. Yeah I
saw a couple split who both were married to one another as hubby & wife and
after their kids were teens, they somehow got the feeling they needed to be
with like-kind genders so she found a lesbian lover & he found a homosexual
lover. That bothered a lot of Pagans then but I didn't care since it didn't
confront me.
I did hang out with a great bunch of guys at a couple of Sabbats held in the
woods. They were homosexual and damn fine cooks & home brew makers. (Hey,
if there's great food and good beer, why not?) But they respected my boundaries
that I didn't swing that way and told me to invite my girlfriend at the time to
their Sabbats so I did. We had a grand time.
For years, in the Pagan community, specifically in some Wiccan sects, there is
this stigma about gays & Wicca and gender balance. Personally I find it
amusing that even in the Occult, people get all bent over the fact there are
homosexuals amongst us. LoL Big deal. I guess I’ve never had a homosexual try
to make advances towards me. I've had one guy in my whole life who was gay tell
me he thought I was cute & would love to get together and when I explained
to him I was heterosexual and thanks but no-thanks, he respected my boundaries
and let it go. So where all of this anti-gay sentiment comes from is beyond me.
Now when I moved to the Cleveland, Ohio, area, I saw much of the same thing
going on in the Pagan community as well. Heteros switching partners, gays doing
their thing & having to defend their rights. It all seems so silly to me
especially if we're all adults.
Do the Spirits give a damn if you're hetero, homo or bi-sexual? Not that I'm
aware of! The only thing I think they care about is “Relationship Pacts” - such
as an oath to be celibate with all others but your partner. Admit that in front
of the Spirits and then break it and your ass is grass, homeboy, and the
Spirits are the lawnmower! But do they care if you're in an open relationship
and promiscuous? Again, not that I'm aware of.
Sexual morality is an individual choice. Yes there are societal taboos that
should be respected such as do NOT get involved with children nor should you
force yourself on someone and so on. Those social taboos are there for a reason
not to simply make it difficult on you. Frankly if you're an adult and you have
a fetish for children, you need therapy and medical help. An acquaintance of
mine has a friend who is gay and he is attracted to young, teenage boys. He
thus far has not moved on these impulses and has instead moved to live out in
the boonies by himself and refuses to date any male who has children. Kudos to
him for recognizing his problems and dealing with them. Recently he's decided
to get professional help and I take my hat off to him!
I was asked if the ATR has the same open style sexual mores that many Pagans
have such as poly-amoury or as Oberon Zell likes to call 'a bouquet of lovers'
and in truth I'm NOT certain because I cannot speak for the ATR just because
I'm now a Houngan. In my opinion, in the ATR it's the same as it is in Paganism
where it's the individual's choice on how they conduct their private lives. I
have heard many arguments between Paleros who claim one cannot be homosexual
and be involved in Palo whilst other Paleros claim that is nonsense and so on.
My first teacher who practiced Obeah told me he would trade sex for spell work
with female clients quite often. He told me he liked hookers as they had
Spiritual needs but had little other than a sexy body (his words) to trade. Ok,
that's his thing. Another teacher of mine had a thing for younger gals and he
would trade some spell work but more often he'd take on an Apprentice in
exchange for sex. Again, that didn't confront me so I didn't give a darn about
it.
I've known some Metaphysical practitioners who refuse to do any spell work OR
even teach anyone who was homosexual - as if a gay person is a leper. That
doesn't bother me because some of my former clients have been gay and they eat,
shit & bleed just like the rest of us and hell their money is the same
color as heterosexuals so I'm not prejudiced but other practitioners out here
are.
There was one guy who was sort of a teacher (in few regards) who was a big time
Rune practitioner and talk about a homophobe! When I started learning the Runes
from him, I had no idea about his personal philosophies regarding gays let
alone politics he turned out to be a Neo-Nazi in disguise so I had to distance
myself from him immediately. I didn't care that he didn't like 'queers' as he'd
state it but his Neo-Nazi mentality went too far for my tastes.
Oddly enough, there's this growing sentiment in many Magical-Religions out
there that a person's sexuality is in question before they can learn let alone
do. Um, is this Judaism? Is this Moslem? Is this Xianity? No this is the world
of the Occult and I do not recall seeing any sweeping statement that said,
"Thou shalt not be gay or bi-sexual & practice the Occult!" BUT,
that's ok. You know, this world needs bigots just as it needs evil to be able
to appreciate the good & non-bigots out there.
Personal morality should be left in the bedroom. Should you have to hide your
sexual preferences in this day and age? No HOWEVER we still have a lot of the
old guard around. Gays have been here for a very long time and it's been said
that some of the most famous artists, inventors and mathematicians have been
gay. Gee I wonder where our society would be had they not been around. I
imagine that our whole world would be far different.
AND with all that said, I do also respect the decision that a teacher or
practitioner has about not working for certain clients. One practitioner I know
refuses to work for criminals - such as drug dealers - regardless of how much
they offer her. Why? I dunno but she has her reasons. Another old black guy I
knew refused to work for white people because he said they complain too much
about the cost & results. Oddly enough, a white male Witch I knew
absolutely refused to do any spell work for folks of non-Irish descent and he
said it was because they have the best chance of his magic working for them.
So you can see there are a LOT of prejudices out there in the Occult and all
are based on some sort of morality, logic (regardless of how illogical it
appears) or reason that the individual spell caster does. Hell I had a woman
come to me and asked me if I was 'gay' and when I said, 'No', she said she'd
prefer to find a gay Houngan who'd take on her work. *shaking my head* There
are a LOT of strange people out there in the world with all sorts of wild
prejudices running around. lol I laugh because it's all so goofy to me why
people have the prejudices they do.
It's a lot like folks who cannot see someone except for their skin color or
sexual orientation. I worked with a guy in an office setting who was a very
nice guy and he was gay. He had an attack of emphysema (spelling?) and wound up
in the hospital. After he recovered, we had our annual Yule party and he
brought in a delicious clam casserole that was out of this world. I and two other
ladies (one was the boss) had the guts to eat it; the rest of the office (20+
men & women) refused to try it thinking he somehow gave it cooties or some
horse-shit. I mean get real. Like the man had Aids and transferred it to his
foods. Ugh It was stupid of people to believe that nonsense but people are
people.
In closing, I want to say that your personal morality does not matter to me. As
long as you are not bullying people for sex or raping innocents, I don't give a
damn what you do in the privacy of your bedroom with another adult(s). Many of
my clients have been quite odd but so what? Hell I have had a couple dominas as
clients who came to me about a love spell. In fact, one was a full fledged
professional dominatrix who wanted me to teach her the Occult. Come to find out
she only wanted to learn how to increase her business so I let her flash some
green and I gave her a potent spell that brings her in quite an influx of cash
to this day. She still emails me from time to time.
If you're a practitioner, what you believe is your own business. If you get
homosexuals coming to you and you don't want to do work for them, send them to
ME. If you get gays who want to learn the Occult and you're prejudiced against
them, send them to ME. Their money is just as green as yours or mine and if
they want help, I have no compulsions against helping them.
Consequently if you get black folks and you're prejudiced about working for
them, send them to ME. If you can't work for Asians, Orientals, Italians,
Polynesians, American Indians or whatever other color/race/creed/religion, send
them to ME!
My Spirits are not against helping others regardless of their personal outlook.
I'm not interested in helping some degenerate do something to an innocent - as
I previously said I'm NOT interested in helping to abort a child or fetus in
the womb just because your man got another woman pregnant. Uh-unh. No way. My
Spirits would kick my ass for that one. That's an innocent and murder for being
hateful.
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