Lesson number two - choices

So the first lesson was about the things that you have no control over and just have to survive so I figured the natural next thing would be about the things we can control.  Plus this lets me put off any discussions about sex until you're like forty five and I am sleeping peacefully in the grave.

    Everyday everything that happens is a matter of choice. Even if the only choice you make is to keep going or not you have made the decision to continue life. It's like a diet you can feel that it's some sort of thing way out of your control or you can realize that it's simply you deciding if you would rather be eat the food and get what ever thing you need from the food or sacrifice that for the long term benefits. 

    A clear example would be my relationship with your grandparents. There have been many time that I have seriously questioned why I allow them to be part of our life but as I was growing up all of my had passed away before they could ever play a significant role in my life and I wanted things to be different for my son. So I decided that the hell of dealing with them was worth some benefit you might gain of a connection to a larger family.

    The other thing important about choice is learning from them. As you go through life you will encounter what I like to call speed bumps, moments in your life where you will screw things up really bad. Be prepared it will happen and will keep happening, during these moment you have choice to learn from them and change the people or parts of your life that led you to that screw up or continue on blissfully.  The main point being that you have to know that you have the power and if you don't change then your circumstances will never change. You may move or get a new job but you find that similar people and situations will still surround you. This is your fault and you can make it better. 

    I have not made all the correct choices and there are things that I still haven't figured out about why parts my of my life are they way they are but I am certain that where I am is because of me- not my family, not my boss and not circumstance. These things shape you and provide possibilities but you are the only who has the power.  Try to see this in every situation and direct your life accordingly. I remember going canoeing when I was teenage and the camp counselor said if you are not paddling faster then the current then you won't have any control life is the same way.