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Wow. Heather... really? seriously? I mean you have a right to do what you feel is best for you and I'm glad you are happy, as are alot of other... however.. this is where my understanding ends.

..."Purging" Nathan? Really? Is that how you see him? Like a piece of waste that just needs to be discarded? I can't for the life of me understand how that is ok to say. This is a public forum, he's healing from the breakup Heather... noone deserves to see slanderous comments about them posted in that way. And Nathan, my god... certainly does NOT deserve that in any way, shape or form. I know you two had your problems, and I know I was a certain part of that problem.. but wow. I cannot even put into words how ridiculous this is. It's very low, and disgusting.
 

How slanderous really is purging? Honestly, until you mentioned it i wasn't getting a bad vibe from this post.... but now i guess i see how it could be concived that way maybe?

Both reactions seem intense to me.
 

Well, I guess I'm sorry that I am doing really well right now...? Purging - like getting rid of a bad element. Didn't realize it was a 4-letter word now... I went through hell in that relationship and it caused excessive damage on my self-esteem, so yes, now that I am no longer with him, I am feeling good. I am feeling like the regular Heather that is full of life and not always worrying how Nathan is going to overreact over the stupidest things. The part of the problem you were involved in was not even the biggest problem in our relationship. I was drowning... and I'm glad i learned how to swim and save myself from constant despair.

Also.... public forum yes, but what sort of slander did I say about him? By saying how I feel now that I am not with him? Honey, you need a lesson on what slander really is. And since it is written in a public forum, it would actually be libel. Telling the truth is not slander or libel. There was no defamation of character present in my post. And Nathan does not have to choose to read it if he is doing so horribly. He cut off contact, so now I am going to say what I want. And besides, I didn't say anything about how amazing my new guy is and how great he makes me feel and this electrifying connection I'm feeling with him.... Nathan doesn't have to read it if he doesn't want to. He knows I am with him, so why would be read my stuff right now anyway? He knows I will probably end up talking about Jared in my posts....

I don't hide who I am just to make it easier for someone else. And you of all people, might not want to try and put yourself onto such a high pedestal. You are not without sin. No one is without sin. Let he who is without sin cast the first stone... oh look, I'm not getting stoned!
 

Ok heather, I've been really nice up to this point considering everything. But you're really starting to push me. Do you really want to start a war with me? Are you really so done with me that you'd be happy to have me out of your life for good? Because that's going to be pretty hard because there's more than just you and me involved in this. I wanted to settle things at some point and make things easier on both of us but stuff like this really gives me doubts that that's even possible.
 

You've been nice up until now considering EVERYTHING>?!??!?!?!? What the hell does that mean? Everything? I did nothing to invoke this except post that I am doing well on MY OWN MYSPACE. It is your choice to read it or not. You should be mad at yourself for choosing to read it, not at me for posting it.

When did i say anything about starting a war????? And I quote now from your own blog right here on this very website, "She broke up with me, but I am pretty glad at this point that she did... " Notice where you said "pretty glad"? You're "pretty glad" that I broke up with you? If you really want to "start a war" you will not win. I am quicker and wittier and I have the truth on my side. All the truths that have hurt me unbearably. All the truths that had me slowly falling out of love with you.

I did not start a war, Nathan. You and Jen started one with me. And why? WHAT IS THE POINT?!?!?!?!?!?!???!?!
 

I think people need to calm down and that certain people need to shut up and mind their own business. What Heather writes in her own blog is HER business. If you don't like her recounts of something, fine, but you're not going to change how someone feels or what they think by attacking their feelings or opinions.

If anything, it makes some peopel defensive and just antagonizes old wounds; to what effect? To hurt Heather and/or Nathan? Stress people out? Start fights and drama that is totally unnecessary? If Nathan and Heather were happy, or at least ok with the way things were, then what kind of person wants to start this kind of crap? Certainly not someone that I'd consider a friend or want involved in MY personal affairs.

What's between Nathan and Heather is between them, NOT anyone else. I don't think either of them want a war, or truly want to hurt each other. But, I could be wrong.

In any event, I recommend people just let sleeping dogs lie, and show a little respect and consideration for other people's feelings. But, I know you're all going to do what you want to do anyway. I love both Heather and Nathan, and I hope that with some time and healing, they can be good friends again.
 

My point was not to compare him to anything, especially not excrement. My point is that once he has been removed, I have felt good. I AM ACTUALLY HAPPY. And also, I was not the one that cut off contact. NATHAN WAS THE ONE WHO SAID HE NEVER WANTED TO TALK TO ME AGAIN. And then he removed me from his LJ friends and deleted his personal myspace account... SO I CAN SAY WHATEVER THE FUCK I WANT in MY OWN MYSPACE and MY LIVEJOURNAL. What kind of twisted society are we in where it's considered wrong for someone to be happy? Nathan will be better someday, and he can be happy too. I must be a horrible person because I am capable of moving on faster, right? Besides, the relationship was over looooong before now, I just hadn't accepted it then. Using the word "purging" for me was about removing a toxic element from my life. Or, from your definition: 1b mostly, and a little 4a.
 

If you don't like it...

Change the channel.
 

Yes, thank you! Does no one else understand that? :-P
 

"Those who matter don't mind and those who mind don't matter".

I think purging is a perfect word. I have felt the same way when some of my relationships have come to a close. People take shit to personally. Don't let anyone hold you down, push you back or tell you that your feelings or ways of expressing yourself or wrong.

Remember how you were feeling when you wrote this post initially? Now, after seeing all this negative comment bullshit, how are you feeling?

I think a purge of that kind of energy is the best thing for you. It's obvious from these comments that it isn't the person you were talking about. Everyone is taking this shit way to personal, like people usually do. This post was about you. Be happy that you are feeling better about your decision. If other people aren't happy about you being happy. No offense, but in general, fuck em.

"I miss being the silly, geeky Heather that wears brighter colors and is always in a good mood and full of energy. I want to paint and sing and do great things."

That is what is important, and that's what you should be thinking about.
 

Did you call it "Heatherland?" Better bring some disinfectant on that carnival ride. ;)