On July 4th, 2009, I became Dadshot George. I highly recommend fatherhood for anyone else who, like me, has been in a state of perpetual jadedness and grumpiness for the last several years, punctuated with brief blissful breaks where no one in your social vicinity is acting like an asshole. Those breaks generally only occur when the batteries are dead in your cellphone or you are on vacation in a remote location with a fishing pole and six pack of your favorite beer product or you are too drunk to care. It's really cool to come home to "the baby" after dodging slings and arrows all day. It's an instant gratification deal every evening. One of the really cool things about fatherhood is the funeral pyre for selfishness that begins to occur about a month into the pregnancy. Also, if you have any sort of confusion about the status of your friendships and other social associations (who is a friend, who is a frenemy, whose got your back, who doesn't, etc.) the arrival of a child will very neatly sort that out for you. There is also the cataclysmic shift of perspective that occurs that is very enlightening. Dad-dom pretty much rules (at least in the beginning).
For anyone considering becoming a father or is accidentally becoming a father, here is my official advice:
*Bring a jacket to the hospital, even if it is July in Arizona.
*Watch lots of horror films with buckets of blood, gutpiles, chainsaw massacres, etc. Watch Ted Nugent hunting tutorial DVDs showing animals being gutted, skinned and turned into barbeque. Acclimate yourself to a numb response to viewing these images and you will be ready for the delivery.
*Bring snacks. You will be in there for a very long time. The cafeteria doesn't open until 6AM and they like to close the cafeteria periodically for whatever reason and they are closed before 9PM.
*Bring only the highest quality reading material. Adult Swim is not 24 hour programming and right now, there is nothing on TV except Michael Jackson. Spend the time reading the book reviews first and make sure the books you bring do not suck, at least not in a bad non-satirical way. This is NOT the time to decide to read 'the classics'.
*Learn how to use your digital camera. Everyone expects instant delivery of baby pictures and will harrass you until they are satisfied.
The first couple weeks seem to be a preoccupation with bodily functions. There is not much personality going on yet. It is feeding, pooping, belching and sleeping. If those needs are not met, baby will let you know. That's pretty much it. And don't shake the baby.
BG