A friend lent me the book, Singular Existance.  I liked it but found it interesting that she focused on not dating because she makes bad choices in men...

I wish there was a book out there that validated my situation, which is not dating because I'm happy just the way I am!  I'm single because I like being single.  My past relationships have been wonderful and fun (which aparently is not the norm!), but right now I'm just enjoying my own company...

Relationships are great, but they take a lot of time and energy, and I'm really busy right now.  I find it strange when people wonder at my single status and seem to think that I'm not in a relationship because I'm too picky or afraid or not found the right guy or not trying hard enough...

The truth is I'm not trying at all.  I like my life just the way it is...  And I truly believe that when I want a relationship it will just happen, and it will be lovely...

My friends have lots of concerns about my new project "Perfect Woman" (where I send out personals adds and have men submit their idea of the perfect woman and then an online audience picks one guy and I transform myself into his "Perfect Woman.")  Other than worrying about psychos and all that, they have concerns about my love life.

Late one night, walking back to my car with some friends, one asked me, "What if you fall in love with someone while you're doing this project?" 

I replied, "I don't think that will happen...  You don't just fall in love by accident.  At some point you make a decision.  But if it does I'll just work it into the project.  It would certainly make things interesting!"

I really don't believe in falling head-over-heels in love.  I don't believe in love at first sight.  That's infatuation and I've never put a lot of stock in infatuation...  Love for me is a slower, deeper thing.  It comes from time invested along with attraction and complimentary personalities. 

So, I don't think love will sneak up on me and hit me over the head.  I think one day, I'll want a relationship and someone wonderful will come along or will already be a part of my life, and things will progress from there.  In the meantime, I'm enjoying the adventures of being a crazy single woman artist who has everything she wants almost all of the time.

Happily Single,
-Laura