I've been goofing around with the bad advice column "Ask Dr. Lev" for a while, I never expected anyone to actually ask me for help. This kid, who I'm pretty sure is French, wrote me this question and I actually had something to say on the subject. Here's the letter & the reply:


- - - THE LETTER - - -

> Dear Dr. Lev,
> I used to date this girl and got completely hung up
> on her. I dont even know for sure what we had, i
> just know it didnt end very well....last month i ran
> into her on the street again. I managed to arrange a
> date but we ended up fighting over stupid
> stuff...and then i saw her in a hard ware store
> yesterday, with a guy....ignoring me....I just cant
> seem to get her out of my head. Please, is there any
> advice you can give me that will eventually help me
> get over this drama queen?
>
> Sincerely yours,
> Gxxxxr
>
> PS: by the way i love your stuff, watching it helps
> me to get over the sh**** days of my life! Keep it
> up ^^


- - - LEV'S REPLY - - -

Hmmm...

I don't really know if I should be giving advice about this sort of thing but...

When something sucks, it's sometimes best to indulge in it's suckiness. Don't try to put it out of your head, feel the feelings as strongly as you can. This is what helps it pass. Ever been to an Italian Funeral? They freak the fuck out, mourn their brains out. I think this is a better way to deal with emotions than to subdue it like the Americans do.

IE, instead of saying "Ah, I don't need her, she's no good anyway..." say "Man, I wish she went for me, this sucks every denomination of ass".

Striking out is good for you though. Better to strike out then to not have tried.

Hope that helps.

-L