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Gender: Male
Status: Married
Age: 32
Sign: Gemini

City: Dallas
State: Texas
Country: US
Signup Date: 2/21/2005

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Wednesday, May 21, 2008 

Category: Life
There's something that I've learned in the past 8 1/2 years of being a Daddy, and that is that the most special moments just manifest themselves in the most unexpected times.

Much like elsewhere in life, the opportunities to really love someone, make the day of a stranger, make your spouse or Mom or brother feel loved and valued, come in the little moments in life. They don't just sneak up on you, the just appear. And either you're dialed-in and aware enough to be "present" in those moments, or you're not. They don't just appear because you're in a great mood, filled with the Spirit and all of your bills are paid. No, sometime they just come when you're dead broke, exhausted, somewhat lost yourself, and not because you fit them into family time, a Daddy date, prayer time or anywhere else that you may necessarily have planned.

No, these times just appear. Gifts from God that hit you in the heart and stay in your soul all of your life.

My favorite, most amazing Daddy moment of all time was the spring of 2005 (my first in LA) and I took Taylor and Brooke to the Ocean on a weekday afternoon. I should have been at work, and I think they were missing a couple days of school. We played, chased, ran from waves, built stuff in the sand and did the pretty standard-issue Pacific Ocean stuff you do. Then, as the sun was just collapsing into the horizon, time stood still. Taylor and Brooke ended up wrapped in their towels, in my arms, and we all were just silent. I held them as close as I could and God gave us a glimpse into eternity as it felt like time stood still, as we just a bask in the glow of the descending sun, while were enveloped by the sound of the surf lapping the shore. My heart felt so alive. So at peace. So certain in love. With God. With His love for me. My love for Taylor and Brooke. Total peace and joy. Taylor, Brooke and I have tons of great memories from our times together in LA, but to me, as their Dad, that was the single most special.

Last night was another great Daddy moment, that just appeared out of seemingly nowhere.

The amazing thing about having three girls in the house at the "Crazy age" (between 7 and 18), is that those little moments manifest themselves so quickly and unexpectedly. It is truly such a challenge, but such a joy to be a step-Dad. And I just pray to be "present" enough to capture most of these little gifts from God. I really believe that's where being a father turns into being a Daddy.

Anyways, I was just so blown away that on a night when I came home absolutely emotionally and physically drained and fatigued, that in a matter of moments, the girls has totally transformed that. (Well, that and some great cooking by Jill Still). It started with sharing bruises, then scratches, then stories from their day, then some other craziness, followed by them bouncing off the walls like electrons around an unstable atom.

And then, wham, all of a sudden, Emma is piled in bed next to me with every year book she's ever had. Walking me through pictures of her childhood. Laura and Caroline are in the room too. Making their way to the bed as well because we needed to see if all five of us could comfortably hang out on a queen size bed (we can). There were a couple baths, washed hair, and then I got to brush some hair while is seemed like once again time stood still. A little, rather insignificant way to serve the little girls (brushing their hair), while Emma laid against me, just turned into one of "those moments" in which all felt so right in my heart and the world. So much love, peace and joy. So much Jesus in the presence of it all.

Life is definitely in these little moments, when we're least prepared. My prayer is seriously to be aware and obedient to these opportunities to love everyone around me (do the cats count?) in these moments.
Broadcast Praise

 
Dear Jared,
Thank you for this as it taps into some of my own experiences and anticipated ones in the years to come.
Having a boy now for nearly 4 years, I have certainly had some of those daddy moments too, with words, or a question, or a glance from him as he stops his playing for a moment to simply say "Daddy, I love you", or walk together, or a discovery together, or a song or game we shared or just hearing his laughter and giggles as I gently rub my 2 day old unshaved face and chin on his, and he laughingly tries to escape, or when he simply asks me to play with him...and so on. He being my first and a boy, he certainly has already shown signs of declaring his "independence" and I can see down the line where he'll begin to take on the world boldly from the fortitude and disciplines and learning he would have received from both his mom and I.
Now, with a newborn girl of our own too, I know that it will be a whole other aspect of parenting that I as a dad will be taking on with her and the relationship how in some ways will be different, simply because she is a girl and how much daddy will want to protect her, support her and ultimately one day, like our son, have to let her go...thus, all of the "catching up" I think I'll want to do, before I even understand that that is what I will be feeling, as she grows up before my eyes, even as our son is doing...and this, all at the nearly ripe old age of the eve of 49. Well, I guess in so many ways, though older than you, I find myself quite litterally, just starting out on this adventure. However, your shared moments, give me a glad and hopeful expectation of the many moments and daddy moments too, that will most certainly cause me to "ponder them in my heart" and also give me a glimpse into eternity and give me many opportunities to look up with a grateful heart and thank my God for His grace and love, and most certainly thankfullness for these three precious gift God has given to me in my wife, son and daughter.
For these moments you've shared, thank you for sharing yours, and for giving me the opportunity for sharing some of the beginning of mine.
 
Posted by Broadcast Praise on Wednesday, May 21, 2008 - 05:49
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Coach Bart
Bart Dykes

 
To be a dad is the most awesome gift God has given us. We are on the same page.
 
Posted by Coach Bart on Wednesday, May 21, 2008 - 12:29
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Eddie

 
I have a unique perspective on this very concept. For my son, I missed most of his "firsts". I missed his first words, first laughs, first baths, first steps, first tooth...

Another man made him with Kelly. It's not my blood running through his veins and I was busy living a different life while this stranger was busy turning into the 4 year old that would become my son.

He's 10 now and I cant even count all of the firsts he and I Have had in the last 6 years. The first day of school, the first time he wrote his full name. The first time he called me dad... ( THAT was a special moment when I went from being EDDIE to being DAD! )

No, it's not my blood that runs through his vains, but the man who IS responsible for my son's genetics is nowhere to be found. He's been a non-entity since my son was 10 months old. He has no memory of the man that biologically is his father....

Daddy is the man that tucks you in at night. Daddy is the man that opens the door to check on you while you unknowingly drift through the land of dreams.... Whether you share the bond of blood or not, Daddy is the man with whom you share those little moments.

The first day of baseball, the first cubscout camp, the giving of medicene when he's sick...

For you, the brushing of the hair, the tea parties with stuffed animals and the first date when you suddenly realize how very important the baseball bat will become!

And if you need any back up intimidating any future suitors for your brood, just remember that my crutches are always at your disposal!
 
Posted by Eddie on Wednesday, May 21, 2008 - 17:30
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G®æÑ†

 
Dude, you need to write. You're SO much better than me. That was beautiful prose. I'm gonna plagierize your s@%t.
 
Posted by G®æÑ† on Wednesday, May 21, 2008 - 18:56
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Jared Livingston
Jared Still

 
Wow Grant...thank you so much!

That's an amazing compliment!

love you bro!

jls
 
Posted by Jared Livingston on Thursday, May 22, 2008 - 01:22
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