Lesbians never cease to amaze me.  At least most of them, anyway.  I've always been in awe of those who move from one relationship to another in record time.  I've had dyke friends do this and I've watched, much like a tennis match, back and forth... but there's a different person on the other side of the net each time (with the occasional attempt at reconciliation with an ex here and there).

I've also been on the receiving end of this more than once and, as you might imagine, it's not fun.  I'm not perfect by any means (ok, I really am, lol), but the question begs to be asked:  what, in all honesty, do you have to offer someone when you're on the rebound?

The answer?

Nothing.

Well, except some hot sex, maybe.  That part is perfectly fine!  I'm not into one night stands or random hook-ups, but if you're safe, I don't judge those who are.  The flood of endorphins make everything seem all right for a while.  I get that.

What digs at me are those lesbians who ooh and ahh over a new woman less than a month after getting out of a relationship, without taking the appropriate time to reflect on why their previous one didn't work out, but most importantly to get closure.  It's all too easy to blame the other woman, to point your finger and say, "It's not MY fault, it's YOURS", and not take any responsibility just because the idea of the break-up wasn't a mutual one.

How can you go from essentially planning marriage, babies and a white picket fence (if not actually having those things) with someone to diving head first into the shallow end of another relationship?

Again, I ask: 

What, in all honesty, do you have to offer someone when you're on the rebound?

And again, I say:

Nothing.

In my opinion, you're not thinking straight (directional reference, not sexual preference) and you're just covering up and ignoring something that will only come back to bite you in the ass.

Really, I'm not bitter about this... I'm just... confused.