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13 Oct 09 Tuesday 
It really all comes down to unrealistic expectations on marriage and love. It’s probably super rare that anyone has that exact overwhelming new love feeling the entirety of their marriage or relationship (this feeling actually isn’t real to begin with; it’s you projecting your desire onto another person. which is why it’s so easy to feel it with so many different people, and why it’s easy for you to jump from one person to the next as if humans are disposable). it seems more realistic that you’ll have good days and bad, and when people see that, or lose that happy love honeymoon feeling, they think the marriage or relationship is over instead of realizing things can go in cycles.

Notice that when you leave one relationship because you ‘fell out of love’ or you refuse to work on certain problems, you almost certainly end up in a new relationship that eventually ends in the same exact way. you can either work it out with one person or constantly be in the revolving door of new relationships, searching aimlessly and insatiably for perfection.

it is rare that you will come to this realization, and even more rare that you will find another person who is willing to go thru the motions with you. there will always be passion; you can feel it for anyone or anything. it’s a DECISION, not some great force outside of yourself that dictates who you will love and when you will love them. Relationships aren’t Disney, they’re a commitment and work.
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Ervin

 
compromise, sacrifice, faith, hope, love, charity...why stop there...
 
Posted by Ervin on 14 Oct 09 Wednesday - 12:12 AM
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