Gender: Male
Status: Divorced
Age: 41
Sign: Aquarius
City: OKLAHOMA CITY
State: Oklahoma
Country: US
Signup Date: 6/2/2006
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Thursday, May 28, 2009
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Category: Life
May has been a slow month for my blog. For
the first part of the month I fell ill, and most recently I just fell. However,
in the light of no serious long-term injuries, I can let myself laugh at my own
folly. I’m not sure this is what Shakespeare meant when stating one could laugh
himself into stitches, but perhaps Dame Edna Everage said it best: “Never be
afraid to laugh at yourself, after all, you could be missing out on the joke of
the century.”
So, the story begins with my decision to buy
a motorcycle…
The whole post can be read at my blog site by following the link below.
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Thursday, April 30, 2009
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Current mood:  inquisitive
Category: News and Politics
Here is my latest post. I don't routinely post my blog to Myspace any longer; however, I thought I would occassionally push one out here. My regular blog posts can be found at www.KnightOfTheLivingDad.com
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“Geologists think that the world may be frozen up again.” – New York Times, 1895
“The human race will have to fight for its existence against cold.” – Los Angeles Times, 1912
“Scientists say arctic ice will wipe out Canada and parts of Europe and
Asia, and Switzerland would be entirely obliterated.” – Chicago
Tribune, 1923
“America is in the longest warming spell since 1776 with temperatures in a 25-year rise.” – New York Times, 1933
“…weathermen have no doubt that the world, at least for the time being, is growing warmer.” – Time Magazine, 1939
“Melting glaciers are the trump card of global warming.” – The New York Times, 1952
“Winters are getting milder, summers drier. Glaciers are receding, deserts growing.” – U.S. News and World Report, 1954
“Climatological
Cassandras are becoming increasingly apprehensive, for the weather
aberrations they are studying may be the harbinger of another ice age.”
– Time Magazine, 1974
“…glaciers have
begun to advance…growing seasons in England and Scandinavia are getting
shorter…the North Atlantic is cooling down about as fast as an ocean
can cool” – Christian Science Monitor, 1974
“The cooling since
1940 has been large enough and consistent enough that it will not soon
be reversed, and we are unlikely to quickly regain the 'very
extraordinary period of warmth' that preceded it.” – Science News, 1975
“There are ominous
signs that the Earth’s weather patterns have begun to change
dramatically and that these changes may portend a drastic decline in
food production – with serious political implications for just about
every nation on Earth. The drop in food output could begin quite soon,
perhaps only 10 years from now.” – Newsweek, 1975
“But the sense of
the discoveries is that there is no reason why the ice age should not
start in earnest in our lifetime.” – International Wildlife, 1975
“Scientists ponder why world's climate is changing; A Major Cooling widely considered to be inevitable.” – New York Times, 1975
“About 10 million
residents of Bangladesh will lose their homes and means of sustenance
because of the rising sea level due to global warming, in the next few
decades.” – Al Gore, 1992
“Scientists no
longer doubt that global warming is happening, and almost nobody
questions the fact that humans are at least partly responsible.” – Time
Magazine, 2001
“Billions will die,
says Lovelock, who tells us that he is not usually a gloomy type. Human
civilization will be reduced to a 'broken rabble ruled by brutal
warlords,' and the plague-ridden remainder of the species will flee the
cracked and broken earth to the Arctic, the last temperate spot where a
few breeding couples will survive.” – The Daily Telegraph, 2006
“Multi-scale
analysis of global temperature changes and trend of a drop in
temperature in the next 20 years" – Meteorology and Atmospheric
Physics, 2007
“Instead of
professed global warming, the Earth will be facing a slow decrease in
temperatures in 2012-2015. The gradually falling amounts of solar
energy, expected to reach their bottom level by 2040, will inevitably
lead to a deep freeze around 2055-2060. [Abdusamatov] said, adding that
this period of global freeze will last some 50 years, after which the
temperatures will go up again.” – RIA Novisty, 2007
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Saturday, January 17, 2009
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Category: Blogging
I have had very few subscribers from Myspace on my new blog location. I'm not taking this personally as it has been less than a week since I moved it. However, I wanted to be sure everyone didn't miss the update. My new website is KnightOfTheLivingDad.com; and the link to the blog is on the right-hand side. Once there, you have RSS or Email subscription options.
Ok - that's it; I won't spam you all anymore. See you at the new site.
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Monday, January 12, 2009
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Current mood:  accomplished
Category: Blogging
Due to an attempt to keep up with several sources, permissions, security features, etc, I am moving my blog from Myspace to a dedicated website. Most, but not all, of my posts have already been transferred. However, no comments were able to be migrated. My new blog site is www.knightofthelivingdad.com/blogengine/ and allows comments, email forwarding, subscriptions, RSS feeds, etc. However, please be patient as I am still learning the new software to maintain the blog. If you have questions, let me know. Thanks!
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Saturday, January 10, 2009
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Current mood:  pleased
Category: Life
Update and Good News!
I found Radar, the believed-to-be-stolen teddy bear from a few blogs ago. As I was cleaning my closet, I found him in an over-turned box. So, the burglars did not take him after all -- which I couldn't fathom why they would. Nonetheless, he has been found.
I suppose another good part to this incident is it made me stop to reflect upon what "things" are really important in life. Hopefully, despite the false alarm from the Bat Cave, it held some meaning for you as well.

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Thursday, January 08, 2009
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Current mood:  contemplative
Category: Friends
Have you ever found yourself in a situation where you need to apologize but it's not really that big of a deal? So you do it out of courtesy or social convention. This is the bumping-into-someone-in-the-supermarket kind of thing. We do this because there's no investment and it doesn't matter that much; it's simply easier to say "sorry" even though we may not really be at fault.
I think perhaps this is what an apology is - it is saying "sorry" or "I wish that hadn't happened" regardless of fault or blame. Although sometimes it is an admission of guilt, but it doesn't have to be. Perhaps that admission is better associated with remorse than with an apology.
With that in mind, I find it interesting (especially within myself) that often when we say we apologize for something, we don't simply stop there but continue to explain the circumstances which would alleviate us from blame. "I was so upset by that point I just couldn't go" or "If someone else had not done that thing then I would have..." In most cases, a simple "I'm sorry" would suffice.
Of course we are often asked "why" we did or didn't do that thing, but this should be kept separate from our apology. Otherwise it becomes this famous and rather common left-handed apology with the possibility of degrading to an explanation or argument.
On the flip-side, there are those over-the-top and I've-failed-you apologies. This is when someone rants vehemently about how bad they were and promises to never make that mistake again. "We are such good friends, and this is not what you should expect from a good friend. I have let you down so horrifically. I just want you to understand that I will make a forthright effort to monitor my own behave to ensure that this sort of thing...blah, blah, blah..."
Both methods become failed apologies and imply that you don't really have heart-felt sympathy. And that's what the apology is. It's caring and the empathetic desire that the circumstance had not occurred.
What we should do is imagine ourselves walking the path in the other person's moccasins, recognize their discomfort and understand that it was painful or difficult. Then we console them with the mysterious idea that fate should not have developed this way and say the magic words, "I'm sorry." If we do share in the responsibility, we need not explain it way to the other person, nor do we need to pledge personal growth. We should acknowledge it, but then save it back to examine on our own time.
So - in closing of this blog, if you feel this was five minutes wasted and you could have been doing something more useful, then I'm sorry.
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Tuesday, January 06, 2009
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Current mood:  sad
Category: Life
As most of you know, I was burgled a few weeks ago. And although it wasn't something I'd wish for again, I didn't really get overly upset about it. The final assessment: nearly $3500 worth of things. It took weeks to realize what all was missing, mainly because many things were small.
The single most valuable monetary object taken was the wedding band from my previous marriage. It had 3/4 carats worth of diamonds in the gold setting and was insured for a little over $2000; however, that was for a policy I no longer have - so I'm just out the money. But oddly, what probably is the most valuable thing taken was a sentimental item I didn't even realize was missing for a few weeks: my teddy bear.
Ok, so a 40-year old man has a teddy bear. No, I didn't routinely sleep with it, but it was always near by and it was a gift from an old girlfriend. It represented a time in my life that I don't want to forget and holds many youthful memories of an idealistic fairy-tale love before I became battle-scarred and tarnished. I am long over the lost love, but enjoy revisiting the nostalgia of that time. Radar, the teddy bear, somehow helped me return to those memories in times of anger or frustration and somewhat magically lifted my spirits.
In the end, the loss of some electronics and jewelry paled in comparison of to the loss of a stuffed animal. I find it odd that the thieves would even take the item; perhaps they believed it to be a stash for cash or a nanny-cam. Perhaps even more odd is that a simple gift from a girlfriend 20 years ago would mean more to me that the loss of my wedding band. Yet again, the ring had already lost its value to me while the teddy bear still had a purpose.
I suppose this goes to show what is truly important in our lives; it's not the flashy, fancy glitz and bling, but the people and memories connected by sentimentality. Don't forget to cherish what is important to you; you never know when it might be gone.

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Monday, January 05, 2009
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Current mood:  intense
Category: Life
In my last blog, I mentioned the fire in my head not being able to overcome the coldness in my heart. It corresponds so appropriately with a conversation I had with my youngest daughter at lunch today and revealed to me a critical aspect I must change about myself.
Rachel asked me an odd question; she queried, "How exactly do you get along so well with people, Dad? I want to know because you are so good at it." To which I had to restrain myself from laughing -- and I'm sure many of you reading will have to as well. I thought to myself, I don't get along well with people. I smiled thinking how wonderful to still have the hero-status of "Dad."
Then I recalled a friend commenting about me more than fifteen years ago. He stated he believed why I got along so well with people was because I was honest about my own flaws, one of which was not getting along with people and therefore I made an extra effort. This made me perform a quick personal inventory of my current flaws, and I realized that as I have gotten older, more comfortable and more set in my ways that I have become more stubborn and that I make said effort far less often.
I tried to explain this idea to Rachel about knowing one's flaws and compensating for them, but the conversation turned to a set of examples that she would give and I tried to explain a better way to handle it. Then she'd give another what-if contingency... and this is when the real epiphany happened: she was a little version of me; and moreover, she was trying to win the conversation.
In a way I had never realized before, I recognized that with most of my conversations, I try to win. I treat communication like a competition. I either try to impress someone or show that I know more about something, or I just have to add my own "valuable perspective." It becomes worse if there is a disagreement, even if it is a minor one. I spend my time and effort building a case rather than building a bridge between us.
So, as most adults do, I know what to do; I know what is proper; I know how to behave. But since I aspire to not simply grow older but also grow wiser, I continue to struggle with means to move the knowledge of my head into the practice of my heart.
As I have embraced the idea of Fighting the Establishment to help others who are less fortunate than I, and as I attempt to practice the Serenity Prayer daily, I now pledge a new effort. I will follow the words of wisdom spoken by the half-brother of Christ; thus I will be quick to listen and slow to speak...at least I will try.
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Monday, December 22, 2008
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Current mood:  calm
Category: Religion and Philosophy
I recently had a conversation with younger lady-friend. She revealed the stories of her latest fun times had. Being far from a fun-hater myself, I enjoyed the tale of her antics but found unsolicited advice falling out of my mouth, telling her to be careful as she needed to be wary of her reputation. She replied a modern mantra saying something like "I do what I want; I don't care what other people think."
Within a few minutes, the conversation shifted to her current struggle to get a job. Discussions about the down-turned economy were had, and we talked about opportunities that fit her skills. Somewhere in the exchange she touted the cliché "It's not what you know, but who you know that matters."
I held my tongue from speaking this time, for I did not want to be critical or judgmental. After all, she is free to do as she pleases, but I couldn't shake the obvious correlation of her not caring whether people thought well of her in one circumstance, while desperately wishing someone respected her in another. To me it was obvious that these seemingly separate scenarios were strongly linked by a common attitude.
Now, I began to feel the plank in my own eye, while examining the speck in hers. I thought about this more and examined her situation more closely. I tried not to mentally criticize or condemn her personally as I evaluated. At the same time, I believe it is okay to learn from other's mistakes; I know I don't have time to make all the mistakes myself just to learn from experience.
As I thought, I realized what blistered in my brain was not any moral decision or any behavioral action at all. What bothered me was the lack of this connection – the idea that an attitude held in one circumstance wouldn't affect other areas of her life. It was quite obvious, but she couldn't or wouldn't see it. The why she was blind to it didn't really matter. And I began to get scared that perhaps there were places of my own life that I couldn't see.
A few things were revealed to me quickly. I have labored under certain illusions. My work life, family life and social life are not separate; they don't each exist in their own vacuums. Acting one way in one place, while acting opposite in another venue, is hypocrisy. Also, the fire in my head can never overcome coldness in my heart. This new self-analysis is a work in progress that should never end.
Something I told my daughter the other day is echoing back to me now. We were discussing the idea of "situational ethics," and I told her circumstances don't change what is right and wrong – it only makes it more difficult to choose right over wrong. Now my own words have issued a challenge to me.
We are now entering that time of the year when resolutions are considered and made. We try to pick behavior adjustments to better ourselves. We often fail or abandon the effort within a few short weeks. Perhaps this is due to placing effort on behavior when the real issue is deeper and more hidden from our view. Therefore, this year, I am not going to focus on habits, forming or breaking them, but rather I will take an inventory of my thoughts, beliefs and personal philosophies. Then I will work on making my actions match.
Be careful of your thoughts, for your thoughts become your words. Be careful of your words, for your words become your actions. Be careful of your actions, for your actions become your habits. Be careful of your habits, for your habits become your character. Be careful of your character, for your character becomes your destiny. (Author Unknown)
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Friday, December 19, 2008
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Current mood:  blessed
Category: Life
Life is 10% what you receive and 90% how you perceive!
That was put to the test this week; so, as a preemptive disclaimer - this blog will be a mismatched amalgam of things. I apologize if it does not follow my normal lines of logic. Bare with me and smile.
As most of you know, I was burgled this week. And as shocked, upset and truly pissed off as I am, most have remarked that I am surprisingly calm about the whole incident. Of course this is because it was an inside job for an insurance scam. No, I don't even have renter's insurance. But this is my point about attitude: cry, laugh or be calm, I'm not getting my stuff back; so, my reaction won't bring about a different outcome.
This is the part of the Serenity Prayer where I accept the things I cannot change. Fortunately, God has given me the wisdom to know the difference in this case. However, the things I can change: putting better practice in checking my locks, upgrading my locks and barring mechanisms, and looking into security protection systems and insurance options.
I say this to remind my readers (my readers? eek, sounds so possessive) that it is so very easy to become complacent and believe "it won't happen to me." I don't live in a gated community, but I'm not in the ghetto either; thus, I believed myself to be unlikely to be burgled. However, it can happen to me - and did. So, let my misfortune be your wake-up call to take the time to inventory your goods, write down serial numbers, video stuff even. Also, check your locks: doors and windows; make sure they are not worn or broken. Depending on the value of your home items, consider renter's insurance -- or if you own your home, review your policy. There is always a "sweet spot" with insurance; you don't want to pay State Farm (or whomever) more money than what it would cost to replace the stuff.
The point I believe I'm trying to make is if there is a weakness in your house, thieves (wrong though it may be) will take advantage of it. So, do your part to protect yourself. Should you be a victim, and I hope never, then taken on the attitude of "shit happens" because we live in an imperfect world. Anger won't solve it, but preventive-maintenance lessens the odds.
This brings me to story number two. My ex-wife, the mother of my children, is having surgery next week. Without sharing much to invade her medical privacy, let me simply say this is a gynecological procedure with the potential of an oncological issue. Thus, this could have a big impact on how my custody schedule works, if only in the short term. Of course, I am hoping for a perfect bill of health, post-op, but accept the reality of a serious circumstance.
Again, this is a moment to look at the Serenity Prayer. I must accept that I am not a surgeon or the person living the affected-life to make any decisions about this, preventative or post-op. However, I can examine my own health risks. Especially you ladies out there, please do this as well.
But moreover, I truly believe that my "healthy attitude" promotes better health. Although it can be taken to an extreme; nobody really likes an unrealistic Pollyanna. And of course mind-over-matter can't trump really bad health habits, but it does factor into one's life and health, perhaps more than we realize.
So when bad things happen, as they will, take the early moments to vent, scream, cry and discharge that hate and anger from your body. But don't hold on to the bitterness; it will poison you, and then you turn cynical and callous. I don't want to live cold like that.
So, be aware of real threats. Raise concerns when necessary. But don't be paralyzed by the darker side of life. And sow good seeds so that you may reap them later; have good karma. In fact, it is a great way to overcome your frustrations. To help myself deal with the lingering anger, paranoia and slight agoraphobia related to being burglarized, I plan to go help some other people. My next stop is McD's to purchase to Arch cards for the homeless (see previous blog, Bitter Cold). I know it will make me feel better.
Finally in closing, let me leave you with the Serenity Prayer, in case there are those who don't know or can't remember it:
God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.
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