My childrens' teachers insist on calling me Mrs. W... they know I'm a single mother, so why would they address a letter to me with Mrs. W?
I hate how a woman has to be identified by her marital status. If it were up to me I'd totally eradicate Mrs. and Miss from the english language. We do not need to have a separate title for those woman who are married and those who are not. Men are not identified by the marital status or lack there of... all men are simply Mr. I do not understand the need to have different titles for women.
Here's a bit of history on the use of
Mrs.According to that, it's supposed to be okay to refer to a divorcee as Mrs, but I disagree. I am not longer married to the man even though I still carry his last name (my maiden name is what appears on facebook). I do not want to be Mrs. W in name or in action, ever again!
I would rather that Ms. be the standard title for woman, any woman regardless of her marital status.
Some married woman may say that using the title Mrs. is a title of honor, but by that explanation it would mean that being a Miss is less than honorable. In my humble opinion is bullshit a woman is no more or less worthy if she is unmarried.
If a woman wants to be honored or noted that they got hitched (hope you bagged a good one) then she can change her last name, but that is solely up to them. Personally I don't really care for the fact of a woman changing her last name just because she got married, but that may be another argument.
You might wonder why I still carry my ex's last name. I do so because of my children. It's confusing enough being a divorced mother of three children, teachers and doctors all want to know if all three kids came from the same father. It's a bit easier when we all carry the same last name.
Though because of this I've been asked by men, what I would do if I got married again. Well, if I got married again and my kids were still in school and living at home I probably wouldn't change my name.
Actually strike that. No matter the age of my kids I wouldn't change my name. If when my kids grow up and I decide to change my last name the only change I would make is to take on my maiden name again. I really wouldn't mind being Melissa S. again.
I wouldn't again take on a man's name, even if I got married. If he doesn't like it then he can find another woman to saddle his name with, because I don't want it.
So, there's my rant for the day. Don't call me Mrs. or Miss, just Ms... if you must call me something other than Melissa or Missy. At work I only use Melissa even with emails to clients. No need for them to know my full name.
I also don't think that woman should change their last names for marriage. I don't know what you'd name the kids, but still!!
My dad's yelling, TTFN.