Have you ever met someone and hit it off almost immediately? The chemistry was so strong it caught you off guard. You’ve spent hours on the phone talking into the wee hours of the morning. You’ve even spent nights together over candlelit dinners at each other’s houses. The lovemaking has been nothing but off the chain. You never thought you would feel this way for someone especially after you’d given love a second chance. Yet, there you are singing off key, “Loving you is easy ‘cuz you’re beautiful…la la la la la la…dooo dooo dooo…ahhhhhhhhhh”. You’ve pretty much lost your effin’ mind over this person but it’s all good because it’s mutual. They’re into you just as much. However there’s a part of you that holds something back.

You’re lying in bed one night and he/she has brought up the question again about not going out. You try to play it off but they want answers especially since you’ve brushed it off one too many times. In the past he/she has mentioned going out for a night out on the town but you claimed to be such a homebody. He/she even invited you to a dinner with some friends but you stood him/her up. Your excuse of being sick with a stomach virus was lame but he/she brought it. Why all the lies???

The truth of the matter is simple…you’re embarrassed to be seen with them in public.

Why? I mean he/she is what you’ve been looking for, right? He/she has given you everything that the others could never measure up to and you can’t deny that this is the happiest you’ve ever been. You’re beginning to feel as though you can’t live without him/her.

So what’s the problem??? What is it about this person that you don’t want to be seen in public with him/her?

Well when you fell for this person he/she was the unlikeliest of people you thought you would’ve been attracted to. You’ve always been attracted to the model types. You know with the tight abs, booty and gorgeous face. Sure this person is easy on the eyes, but it couldn’t hurt if he/she hit the gym a few days out of the week.

You really find yourself being repulsed at the idea of being seen in a public place with him/her. You can’t help but think of how worse it can get if you guys get serious. People always say when you’re in love you let go. If he/she puts on another 100 pounds it’s gonna be hard to even get them in the car.

This might sound shallow to some of you but I was chatting with a friend of mine and he said he would make sure any woman he dates understood she cannot end up overweight or he would leave her. I thought it was selfish but his point was her not caring enough about him to be on this earth. He said weight gain welcomes the deadliest of diseases and why put his heart into a woman who wants to die early? WOW…I didn’t like his delivery of his reasons but I understood.

I wouldn’t go as far as to stay out of public nor would I leave but I would most definitely encourage my mate to eat better and do things to promote healthy living. I would hate the idea of falling in love with someone only to prepare for their death because of lack of taking care of themselves. Still in sharing this there’s more to this. People want picture perfect mates without accepting someone for the package they come in.

So what do you do? How do you tell this person you love them but they have to lose weight or you’re leaving? How would you deal with someone who came to you about your weight or body image?

Let’s even flip it a little, what if this isn’t just about weight? Have you ever dated someone who wasn’t exactly your type and you still fell for them, but truthfully there were some things about him/her that you wanted to change?

Is image important to you? Why?

Let’s talk about it...

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What it do fam?!

How are you doing? Hope all is well with you.

I know it’s been eons since I last graced you with my presence. Some of you have migrated to Facebook where I re-appeared for a little while but again, my interaction with everyone dwindled over the last 6 months or so. Some of you that have been reading my blogs since ’06 know that I’m not the one to share my personal problems on this public forum. I honestly felt this was a stage to entertain not a place to air my business.

Yet, today is the day that I’ve decided to break my silence. Why? Well I’ve missed you guys so much. I’ve missed writing and how crazy this particular blog can get. Plus, I feel as though I owe it to you to let you know I’m okay and not going anywhere.

Those of you that know me outside of this realm are aware of the things I’ve dealt with in the last year since I dropped the book. For the rest of you, I know you’re probably wondering what happened that would remove me from the one place/thing that I enjoyed most - MySpace and writing.

The best way to explain without being long winded is simple…life happened. I’m sure some if not all of you know of someone that has had to deal with being laid off during this recession. And we’ve all had backstabbers. I’m even sure that we’ve all had financial struggles so I’m no different than any other adult. I’ve dealt with it all in this last year but remained faithful that I would get through it and I have. However, I didn’t come out of it unchanged.

I’ve learned so much in the last year but more than anything I’ve had to learn humility. It wasn’t exactly a word I was familiar with but I’ve had to learn it throughout this experience. Did I ever think it couldn’t happen to me? To be honest, no because I felt I’d always had a game plan in place. I was always the one preaching about having a damage control plan ready to go. So you can imagine my difficulty in believing I was jobless, broke and about to be homeless. Yet, I was staring in the face of it all. I had no job, my savings and checking accounts were depleted and the eviction notice was sitting on my table.

You might be thinking, get over yourself Mo, it couldn’t have been that bad. You were still playing around on Facebook with your statuses. You were on air every Wednesday night doing your show. Yea, I lurked around both Facebook and MySpace. I was updating statuses but that stopped a while ago. I wasn’t on air for a short period of time and Keia had to run it alone. Even when I came back it was still hard to maintain the show with everything in my life falling apart. It came down to a decision to take a hiatus because I was moving from GA to my hometown of SC.

Thanks to someone who’s had my back since day one and their words of advice, I realize I have nothing to be ashamed of. If anything I have a testimony to share. I’ve made it through. I’m still alive and kicking. This experience didn’t break me. If anything I’m happy and finally in a peaceful place.

I know life can take us through some things but you have to know how to look at everything as a test that you will eventually pass…afterwards, you will have a story to tell - your own testimony of how you made it through.

I appreciate everyone who has been there in my corner. I thank you guys for understanding and being patient. You can definitely expect to see more from me. Don’t worry. I’m working diligently on getting this sequel completed. I know it won’t be in time for Xmas, but I have high hopes for Spring 2010. You know I’ll keep you guys posted.

Sooooo…what’s been going on with you guys? I know I’ve missed a lot.

Before you post, make sure you read the next paragraph
to understand how this is going to work.

You
will cut and paste the message(s) you've received to this blog as a
comment.

The
people they are intended for can comment back thanking the sender. If the person
asks who sent it, that is up to you if you don't want to keep it a secret. Just
send them a private message.

Okay folks, let the Valentine's Gram
Exchange begin!!!

What it do folks? Hope you're enjoying this Super Saturday!

That time of the year is fast approaching. As you all know every year on February 14^th, across the country, candy, flowers, and gifts are exchanged between loved ones, all in the name of St. Valentine.

In addition to this week's Erotic Poetry Slam on Blog Talk Radio, I'm also hosting the 3rd Valentine's Day Gram Exchange.  

Last year some of you participated in this day of love and it was a lot of fun, so let's do it all over again. For those of you who aren't familiar with what I'm talking about click on this link:  VALENTINE'S DAY GRAM EXCHANGE -
2008

Is there someone you've been admiring for weeks, months, even a year but you wouldn't dare come at them like that? What about the girl/guy that is a blogger on Mo' Flames or another blog and you were like damn I just want to…

.. ..

 
Wait, that would make you seem like some desperate on-line stalker, right?

Well here's your chance to sound off ladies and gentlemen. Tell that person how you really feel, what you would like to do or have done without them knowing who it's from. Send out a little bit of love to someone to say you were thinking of them while lying next to your significant other (yeah we know some of you are having cyber affairs).

Again this is okay, it's all in good fun and you might put a smile on someone's face that really needed to know despite not having someone to share this day with, you thought of them.

Ready for the details?

Instructions:

 
1. Leave a comment on this blog to let everyone know that you are participating.

2. Write your note (V-gram) to whomever you wish but DO NOT sign it with your name (the point is not to say who it's from).

3. You will send the V-gram to someone that has agreed to participate in this event. Make sure in the subject line you include "I found this in my inbox" OR "Someone sent me this".

4. When you receive V-grams email in your mailbox forward it to someone else that is participating but DO NOT send the V-gram to the person that it is intended for.  Once you forward it, delete it (this will minimize the duplication of v-grams).

5. On Valentine's Day another blog will be opened where you will post the V-grams you have in your mailbox.....

So, when do we start the love fest? Why wait, you can start today!  Just make sure that you post below that you are participating and check back for others that will participate as well. Then you can start sending them out until February
14^th with as many V-grams as you wish. Again, you are only send them to the people who post to this blog that state they participating.

Please feel free to send out bulletins to your friends directing them to this blog for details and participants.

***NOTE***

You can choose anyone that is participating on this blog to send your V-gram to.  Your V-grams should only be sent to the people on this blog. Or if you decide to send one to someone else, make sure they know to come to the blog on Valentine's Day to see the messages. 

The person receiving the messages will forward them to someone else and whomever is the holder of the V-gram will post it on February 14th.  It doesn't matter that he/she knows who it's from.  No one should be that pressed to read into any of your messages.  This is strictly for fun.

If you plan on sending V-grams revealing emotions for people you really want to be with, this is not the blog for it. You can send that to them directly. This is just something to show that person you thought of them. You never know if someone is spending this day alone.

What it do folks?  Happy Hump Day Wednesday!

Check out the lyrics below:

What y'all want?
Unconditional Love (no doubt)
Talking bout the stuff that don't wear off
It don't fade
It'll last for all these crazy days
These crazy nights
Whether you wrong or you right
I'm a still love you
Still feel you
Still there for you
No matter what (hehe)
You will always be in my heart 
With unconditional love

This is just a taste from Tupac's song, Unconditional Love.  You already know that Wednesday nights we take blogging to another level when Freak U broadcasts live on Blog Talk Radio. 

Tonight we're discussing the age old question:

Why am I still single? 

We're also going to discuss your fears.  Is it you or him/her?

What are you afraid of losing in loving someone with everything you have to give?

In order to tune in tonight, call 646-716-4683 or click on the link below...unless you're scared:

FREAK U - WHY AM I STILL SINGLE??

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What it do folks?  Happy Manic Monday!

Hopefully you had a restful weekend. 

This blog will be short and sweet since the encounter was. 

I was standing on line at a local grocery store with the Diva.  Normally this is her time to shine and gain the attention of the public.  Those with children can relate.  Everything you hope they wouldn't do, they do.  Anyway, the Diva decided to whine that she was sleepy. 

A deep voice says, "I know how she feels.  I'm sleepy too.  It's been one of those days ya know."

I looked up and noticed a rather attractive man standing directly in front of me.  I smiled in agreement.  He gave the Diva the compliment of being a cutie.  I thanked him and he turned around. 

Quickly I scanned him from head to toe.  My decision was made.  He would not get the digits.

Now I guess you're like wait a minute.  He didn't ask.  Well let me finish.  After he finished his transaction, he turned around and extended his hand to introduce himself.  I took his hand and we shook briefly.  Before letting go I glanced down.  Again he was not going to get the digits.

He walked away and I proceeded to the cashier.  Something caught my attention.  The guy was standing a few feet away as if trying to "think about" if he should or shouldn't.  I prayed he wouldn't.  He finally began to walk away.  In my mind I knew exactly where he was.

I finished my transaction and headed for the exit.  I walked in the direction towards my car and BAM!  There he was.  He smiled and made his move.

"It wouldn't be too forward if I were to ask you out on a date.  Oh and my name is…wait I told you my name already.  My bad…guess I'm a little nervous."

I thanked him for the invite but declined and said that I was presently seeing someone.  I prayed he wouldn't ask if I was happy.  He didn't and we parted ways.

Alright, now I guess you're wondering why I didn't take him up on the invitation if he is an attractive man.  In my scan of him from top to bottom I saw several things that turned me off.  For starters his attire was dirty.  I took into consideration it was probably his work gear but a first impression is a lasting impression.  Secondly, from his hands appeared as though he'd been washing them in baby powder and when we shook hands I could've sworn he cut me.  Speaking of which, his nails were not clipped and they had caked dirt underneath.  I'm sorry but based on this initial assessment he failed and did not obtain my number.

Perhaps it was a little much for some but I've reached a point in my life where I won't accept anything that I have to make an excuse for.  Yeah he could've been coming from work, but those were a couple of things that made my nose go up.  Call me conceited, but it was the deal breaker for me.

Let's talk about it.

When you meet someone randomly what features do you take notice of first? 

What is an immediate turn off?

Do you normally give your number out to everyone you meet?  Why or why not?

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What it do folks?!  Happy Thirsty Thursday!

Long time no speak I know.  I apologize for keeping you waiting, but I had to deal with some personal things.  No need to go into it - you know I don't share what goes on outside of MySpace.  What I will say is that we all have to face some sort of obstacle in this thing called life.  Just know that I'm finally standing up again and ready to go into 2009 with renewed faith that ain't nothing stopping the Mo Show (c) 2008 Ryan.

With that being said let me get it started with the first of a series of blogs I've been holding out on.  Of course, it's long but trust that it's going to be for your enjoyment and entertainment...

(insert ripple effect and music)

We all know when it comes to men and women having a strong attraction between one another, out of the two, women pretty much know if they're going to give the guy some.  The only question is when and where. 

For Ursula and James, their paths crossed at a mutual friend's sports party.  From the moment they met both knew it was gonna go down.  James couldn't deny the strong sexual vibes that Ursula clearly sent him throughout the night, but unfortunately for him she wasn't about to give it up on the first night. 

Sure they're adults and Ursula should've been able to share her cookies without worrying about James thinking she was some kind of whore, right?  Well she still wasn't going to go there.  In her mind she was making him want it more by waiting.  The night finally came to an end and they parted ways with some saliva swapping that made Ursula second guess that decision to hold out.  It wasn't until she had to curl up with her vibrator (Seventh Heaven) that Ursula cussed herself, "Damn if only I let him hit it."

Her chance came a week later…

They reunited at another sports party but this time at a local bar.  The same chemistry they had from the week before was there but neither could deny that it was more intense this night.  They could barely keep their hands to themselves. 

By half-time Ursula found herself in the back seat of his truck engaging in the best oral sex she'd had in a long time.  Somehow they were able to maneuver into a good position.  Moments later James pushed her to an orgasm that left her body in convulsions.  They returned to the bar to finish watching the game each with smiles on their face that would make a photographer proud.

When they parted ways this night he chatted with her until she reached her front door.  They said their good-byes and promised to get at one another the next day.  (Oh let me throw this in…that was on a Tuesday night.)

Ursula didn't hear from James until Friday afternoon.  He texted the following:  "What's good for tonight?  Wanna meet up at the spot?"

She replied: "Sure, what time?"

They met at the sports bar and enjoyed one another's company over wings and drinks.  Of course that burning desire between them couldn't be ignored.  An hour later they found themselves in a nearby shopping center parking lot steaming up his windows.  They parted ways again and agreed to keep in touch.

A week passes…

Saturday morning Ursula opened her eyes to a text message from James:  "What's up sexy?  Plans for tonight?"

She replied:  "Nothing just yet.  What do you have in mind?"

Saturday evening rolled around and Ursula stepped out with a cute halter top, shorts that stopped right at her thighs and the stilettos to accent her muscular legs.  The moment James saw her they made a straight bee-line to his back seat.  It wasn't until after their escapade they were able to grab something to eat.  After dinner they parted ways and agreed to give one another a shout.

The week passes…

Saturday morning James sent a text:  "What's up for tonight, sexy?"

She replied:  "Nothing planned yet. What's up?"

James replied:  "Party tonight.  Would love if you could come through with your girls."

Ursula sent a few texts out to her girls and later that evening everyone met up with James and his boys.  Just as it was the weeks prior their attraction was just as strong.  Hell I knew they were going end up missing.  Within an hour of arriving to the party the two dipped off to an inconspicuous location down the street.

The week passes…

Friday morning James sent a text: "Hey sexy, what's good for tonight?"

Ursula stared at her phone for a minute before responding: "Nothing planned, what's up?"

James' response: "You and me meeting up anytime, anyplace and anywhere."

At that very moment Ursula realized she had been engaging in a booty call relationship without it being established.  She gave me a call and asked if she was really was a booty call.  I laughed and started singing: "Never on Sunday, Monday's too soon.  Tuesday and Wednesday just won't do.  Thursday and Friday we can begin but our Saturday love will never end." 

She didn't laugh and asked me why the hell I was singing.  I told her everyone in our clique had named James, "The Weekend Warrior".  Anyone could see that he only called, ahem excuse me, texted her on the weekends.  She never told us once that his texts or calls came through during normal business hours during the work week. How about this…they never made it out of his car.  She told me that he asked if they could park his car in her bedroom.  WTF?

There were some other red flags that went up about James, but more importantly than anything was the behavior of only contacting her on the weekends. Obviously his weekdays were filled with some other things.  When she tried to address this with him he didn't seem to have a justifiable reason as to why it was only on the weekends she heard from him.  Needless to say their weekend love affair ended on a weekend.

Okay let's talk about it.

Can anyone tell me how Ursula missed the boat that she was a booty call?

Would you have engaged in this fiasco for this long (5 weeks) without setting up the rules of engagement?

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What it do folks?  Happy Thirsty Thursday!!!

I know...two blogs in one week.  What?!!  Yeah, I'm making my way up out of the dungeon.  But believe me when I say that I've been busting my butt in getting this sequel done so the blogs will be coming but not as often as I would like.

Anyway, let me move along into this blog.  Despite the fact that I wanted to sit in my room the other night and continue writing, something compelled me to push away from the desk and take a moment out to bring you a blog topic to ponder on. 

Thanks to my characters, Desi' and Troy, this topic was easy to come up with.  For those that had the opportunity to read One Ain't Enough, already know about the dilemma my main character, Desi' is in.  If not, close this blog and go buy it.  (yeah I'm dead serious)

For everyone else, take a moment to think back to that person you cared for, loved and/or were in love with and things didn't work out.  Do you remember what the straw was that broke the camel's back and you had to walk away?  Did you walk away without looking back or did you find yourself on an emotional rollercoaster and/or involved in a yo-yo relationship? 

A song came to mind as well when I thought of this topic.  Take it away Lauryn: 

It could all be so simple
But you'd rather make it hard
Loving you is like a battle
And we both end up with scars
Tell me, who I have to be
To get some reciprocity
No one loves you more than me
And no one ever will

Is this just a silly game
That forces you to act this way
Forces you to scream my name
Then pretend that you can't stay
Tell me, who I have to be
To get some reciprocity
No one loves you more than me
And no one ever will

I keep letting you back in
How can I explain myself
As painful as this thing has been
I just can't be with no one else
See I know what we got to do
You let go and I'll let go too
'Cause no one's hurt me more than you
And no one ever will...

Thank you girl...

How many of you have ever been in a situation where you wanted to let him/her go, but you just couldn't?  Something kept pulling you back regardless of how much you tried to walk away...

Was it his swagger?  Was it her signature fragrance?  Was it how he/she would look at you?  Oh do I even need to go there about the back breaking sex?

I feel you...whatever it was, you couldn't let him/her go.  You and I both know it shouldn't be like this where folks use one another as a revolving door, but it happens.  We're human, we love hard and even though he/she might not be good for us.  Somehow we find a way to make it sound good.

Alright, let's talk about it...

Ever had a man/woman that you couldn't walk away from?  What wasn't that kept you going back?

Was it his swagger?  Her scent?  The sex?  When did you finally say enough is enough and you walked away?

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What it do folks?  Happy Manic Monday?!!

I hope all of you had a wonderful Labor Day weekend.  I know it's long overdue for a blog,  so I decided to drop in to discuss an interesting topic that came about after a conversation with my Wonder Twin, Ego.

Let me start by asking, what do you want in a man/woman?

Of course some of you will have a laundry list of characteristics and qualities that he/she should possess.  It could be from having an education to being able to blow your back out or giving good head.  There is nothing wrong with that, but what about someone vouching for him/her?

That's right.  What if your potential ex man/woman could ask a former ex fuck buddy or boy/girlfriend to vouch for your work? 

Now I know damn well that more than likely none of you would want to have the woman or man that used to sleep with your partner tell you how good they are. 

The thing is there might be some of you that are tired of being lead astray, ran amuck, hoodwinked and bamboozled into thinking that your potential mate is the bomb.  Sure we can wait it out and see if they can make it do what it do.

Or we can do as they do in job interviews...give them an application, drug screen, STD testings and then of course check references.

You would be able to find out all you need to know from the previous lover on whether or not he/she is worth your time.  I'm just saying, some of you are guilty of the saying "someone should've told me about him/her..." or "i should've listened to them..."

Let's talk about it...

Would you be so interested in knowing what they are good at?  Or would you rather take your chances to see for yourself?

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What it do folks?!  Happy Thirsty Thursday!

Just stopping in to say hi to all and let you know I'm still alive and breathing.  I've been on vacation and of course grinding it out on the sequel everyone's patiently waiting for.

Some of you are asking what's going on with me and why I haven't been blogging.  Well, it's not that I don't want to blog.  I realized with the way things are now, I can't. 

I guess what some of you didn't know was my first book was pretty much completed, so I had plenty of time to just hang out on the blogs.  With the exception of the radio show, I'm literally spending most of my free time getting Desi's life in order as well as my own. 

Anywho, don't worry I'll be back soon enough and we'll cut the fool as we normally do.  I just wanted to stop in to let you know I miss you guys. 

If you want to let me know what you've been up to, please share.  I'll stop in later to hit you back.  Oh and I see some of you are starting to blog it out.  I've been lurking and commenting when I can.   Talk to you soon...love you muches!!!