As we grow up,
We learn that even the one person that wasn't supposed to ever let us down, probably will.
You'll have your heart broken,
& you'll break others' hearts.
You'll fight with your best friend
Or maybe even fall in love with them,
& you'll cry because time is flying by.
So take too many pictures,
Laugh too much,
Forgive freely,
& love like you've never been hurt.
Life comes with no guarantees,
No time outs,
& no second chances.
You just have to live life to the fullest.
Tell someone what they mean to you
& tell someone off.
Speak out,
Dance in the pouring rain,
Hold someone's hand,
Comfort a friend,
Fall asleep watching the sun come up,
Stay up late,
Be a flirt,
& smile until your face hurts.
Don't be afraid to take chances,
Or fall in love
& most of all,
Live in the moment because every second you spend angry or upset is a second of happiness you can never get back.

- Unknown  

If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away.

If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay.

Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior.

Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.

Stop trying to change yourself for a relationship that's not meant to be.

Slower is better.

Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy.

If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve then heck no, you can't 'be friends'.  A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend.

Don't settle.

If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is.

Don't stay because you think 'it will get better.'  You'll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better.

The only person you can control in a relationship is you.

Avoid men who've got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women.  He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant, why would he treat you any differently?

Always have your own set of friends separate from his.

Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you.  If something bothers you, speak up.

Never let a man know everything.  He will use it against you later.

You cannot change a man's behavior.  Change comes from within.

Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are...even if he has more education or in a better job.

Do not make him into a quasi-god.  He is a man, nothing more nothing less.

Never let a man define who you are.

Never borrow someone else's man.

If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you.

A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you.

All men are NOT dogs.

You should not be the one doing all the bending...compromise is two way street.

You need time to heal between relationships...there is nothing cute about baggage... deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship.

You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you...a relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals...look for someone complimentary...not supplementary.

Dating is fun...even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr. Right.

Make him miss you sometimes...when a man always know where you are, & you're always readily available to him - he takes it for granted.

Never move into his mother's house.

Never co-sign for a man.

Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that you need.  Keep him in your radar but get to know others.

Share this with other women & men (just so they know).
You'll make someone smile,
Another rethink her choices,
& another woman prepare.
They say it takes a minute to find a special person,
An hour to appreciate them,
A day to love them
& an entire lifetime to forget them.

Dr Phill:
"You should know that you're the best thing that could ever happen to anyone
& if a man mistreats you, he'll miss out on a good thing.
If he was attracted to you in the 1st place,
Just know that he's not the only one.
They're all watching you,
So you have a lot of choices.
Make the right one.
Ladies & gentleman take care of your own hearts..."

She's the one you call when you're bored because she makes you laugh. She's the one you talk to when you're feeling down because she's willing to lend an ear and be a friend. She's not the one you call when you need a date to your company's Christmas party, or to go dancing with on a Saturday night. She's the one you spend time with between girlfriends, before you find "The One." You know, the one who you keep around in the meantime.

She's not one of the guys, not a tomboy, but you don't look at her as a "real" woman, either. She's not bitchy enough, moody enough, or sexy enough to be seen in that light. She's too laid-back, too easily amused by the same things your male buddies are amused by. She's too understanding, too comfortable – she doesn't make you feel nervous or excited the way a "real" woman does. But she's cool, and nice, and funny, and attractive enough that when you're lonely or horny and need intimate female companionship, she'll do just fine. You don't have to wine and dine her because she knows the real you already, and you don't have any facades to keep up, no pretenses to preserve. You're not trying to get anything of substance out of her. She's not easy, but you know that she cares about you and is attracted to you, and that she'll give you the intimacy you need. And you know you don't have to explain yourself or the situation, that she'll be able to cope with the fact that this isn't the beginning of a relationship or that there's any possibility that you have any real romantic feelings for her. It won't bother her that you'll get up in the morning, put on your pants, say goodbye, and go on a date with the woman you've been mooning over for weeks who finally agreed to go out with you. She'll settle for a goodbye hug and a promise to call her and tell her how the date went. She's just so cool...why can't all women be like that?!

But deep down, if you really think about it (which you probably don't because to you, the situation between the two of you isn't important enough to merit any real thought), you know that it's really not fair. You know that although she would never say it, it hurts her to know that despite all her good points and all the fun you two have, you don't think she's good enough to spend any real time with. Sure, it's mostly her fault, because she doesn't have to give in to your needs – she could play the hard-to-get bitch like the rest of them do, if she really wanted to. But you and she both know that she probably couldn't pull it off. Maybe she's too short, or a little overweight, or has a big birthmark on her forehead. Whatever the reason, somehow life has given her a lot of really great qualities but has left out the ones that men want (or think they want) in a woman. So she remains forever the funny friend, the steadfast companion, the secret lover, and you go on searching for your goddess who will somehow be everything you ever wanted in a woman. You'll joke to her that she should be the best man at your wedding, and she'll laugh and make a joke about a smelly rental tux.

She doesn't captivate you with her beauty, or open doors with her smile. Mainly she blends in with the crowd. She's safe. She doesn't want to be the center of attention and turn the heads of everyone in the room. But she wants to turn someone's head. She wants to be special to someone, too. We all do.

She has feelings. She has a heart. In fact, she probably has a bigger and better heart than any woman you've ever known because she's had a front-row seat to The Mess That Is Your Life, and she likes you anyway. She obviously sees something worthwhile and redeeming in you because although you've given her nothing, absolutely no reason to still be around, she is.

Anyway, yeah once was a Meantime Girl. Been one more times than I care to admit. I don't know the reason, really, and at this point I don't even care. I just want to let every guy know who's ever had the good fortune to have a Meantime Girl that we may be a lot of fun, but we cry, too. A lot.  And someday we won't be around.

Clingy but sweet

DRIVERS UNDER 18

Q: Am I allowed to use my wireless telephone hands free?

A: NO. Drivers under the age of 18 may not use a wireless telephone, pager, laptop or any other electronic communication or mobile services device to speak or text while driving in any manner, even hands free. EXCEPTION: Permitted in emergency situations to call police, fire or medical authorities. (VC §23124).

 

Q: Why is the law stricter for provisional drivers?

A: Statistics show that teen drivers are more likely than older drivers to be involved in crashes because they lack driving experience and tend to take greater risks. Teen drivers are vulnerable to driving distractions such as talking with passengers, eating or drinking, and talking or texting on wireless phones, which increase the chance of getting involved in serious vehicle crashes.

 

Q: Can my parents give me permission to allow me to use my wireless telephone while driving?

A: NO. The only exception is an emergency situation that requires you to call a law enforcement agency, a health care provider, the fire department or other emergency agency entity.

 

Q: Does the law apply to me if I’m an emancipated minor?

A: Yes. The restriction applies to all licensed drivers who are under the age of 18.

 

Q: If I have my parent(s) or someone age 25 years or older in the car with me, may I use my wireless telephone while driving?

A: NO. You may only use your wireless telephone in an emergency situation.

 

Q: Will the restriction appear on my provisional license?

A: No

 

Q: May I use the hands-free feature while driving if my car has the feature built in?

A: NO. The law prohibits anyone under the age of 18 from using any type of wireless device while driving, except in an emergency situation.

 

Q: Can a law enforcement officer stop me for using my hands-free device while driving?

A: No. For drivers under the age of 18, this is considered a SECONDARY violation meaning that a law enforcement officer may cite you for using a hands-free wireless phone if you were pulled over for another violation. However, the prohibition against using a handheld wireless telephone while driving is a PRIMARY violation for which a law enforcement officer can pull you over.

I haven’t had the time to write lately,
It’s a combination of being lazy,
& having too many thoughts to sort through.
Which is why I have been pasting things lately...

Loving the Wrong Person by Andrew Boyd

We’re all seeking that special person who is right for us.
But if you’ve been through enough relationships,
You begin to suspect there’s no right person,
Just different flavors of wrong.
Why is this?
Because you yourself are wrong in some way,
& you seek out partners who are wrong in some complementary way.
But it takes a lot of living to grow fully into your own wrongness.
& it isn’t until you finally run up against your deepest demons,
Your unsolvable problems,
The ones that make you truly who you are--that we’re ready to find a lifelong mate.
Only then do you finally know what you’re looking for.
You’re looking for the wrong person.
But not just any wrong person:
The right wrong person,
Someone you lovingly gaze upon & think,
"This is the problem I want to have."

I will find that special person who is wrong for me in just the right way.

It’s better to be alone, than in the wrong company by Anonymous

The less you associate with some people, the more your life will improve.
Any time you tolerate mediocrity in others, it increases your mediocrity.
An important attribute in successful people is their impatience with negative thinking & negative acting people.
As you grow, your associates will change.
Some of your friends will not want you to go on.
They will want you to stay where they are.
Friends that don’t help you climb will want you to crawl.
Your friends will stretch your vision or choke your dream.
Those that don’t increase you will eventually decrease you.
Don’t ask someone who’s lost themselves to help you find your way,
If they can’t help themselves,
They certainly can’t help you.
Don’t spend time with people who do not contribute something of substance or value to your life, meaning:
Don’t waste your major time with minor people,
Life’s far too short for that.
Remember, nothing ever stays the same,
In a year from now you will either be better off or worse off,
Your relationships will either be strengthened or weakened,
You will either have progressed or regressed.

Look to people who are humble/spiritual/charitable/joyous/friendly without any hidden agendas or motives,
So that you can aspire to be like them,
& look to people who have less than what you have,
So that you can be grateful.
& remember, it’s not the quantity of friends or acquaintances that you have that’s important,
It’s the quality of your friendships that really matter,
It’s better to have a handful of unconditional, true-blue friends that will be there for you at the drop of a hat
In the good times & the bad,
& who knows you inside out, than having many superficial, fair-weather friendships.

Consider this:

* Never receive counsel from unproductive people.

* Never discuss your problems with someone incapable of contributing to the solution, because those who never succeed themselves are always first to tell you how. Not everyone has a right to speak into your life. You are certain to get the worst of the bargain when you exchange ideas with the wrong person.

* Don’t follow anyone who’s not going anywhere. With some people you spend an evening: with others you invest it.

* Be careful where you stop to inquire for directions along the road of life.

* Wise is the person who fortifies his life with the right friendships.

A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE:
One old love she can imagine going back to
And one who reminds her how far she has come.

A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE:
Enough money within her control to move out,
And rent a place of her own even if she never wants to or needs to.

A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE:
Something perfect to wear if the employer
Or date of her dreams wants to see her in an hour.

A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE:
A youth she's content to leave behind.

A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE:
A past juicy enough that she's looking forward to retelling it in her old age.

A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE:
A set of screwdrivers, a cordless drill, and a black lace bra.

A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE:
One friend who always makes her laugh,
And one who lets her cry.

A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE:
A good piece of furniture not previously owned by anyone else in her family.

A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE:
Eight matching plates, wine glasses with stems,
And a recipe for a meal that will make her guests feel honored.

A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE:
A feeling of control over her destiny.

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW:
How to fall in love without losing herself.

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW:
How to quit a job,
Break up with a lover,
And confront a friend without ruining the friendship.

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW:
When to try harder
And when to walk away.

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW:
That she can't change the length of her calves,
The width of her hips,
Or the nature of her parents.

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW:
That her childhood may not have been perfect
But its over.

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW:
What she would and wouldn't do for love or more

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW:
How to live alone
Even if she doesn't like it

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW:
Whom she can trust,
Whom she can't,
And why she shouldn't take it personally.

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW:
Where to go
Be it to her best friend's kitchen table,
Or a charming inn in the woods
When her soul needs soothing.

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW:
What she can and can't accomplish in a day.
A month,
And a year.

--MAYA ANGELOU

One thing to know about me:
My girls come before any male.
If you don't get along with my friends,
I will NOT get along with you.

It will always be:
CHICKS BEFORE DICKS
& know this,
No dick will EVER be big enough to get in between my friendships

Of course, family always comes first.
& then friends.
Any other way is just wrong.

This is something that my teacher told me...
Things that everyone should know about the world:
1.  No one is a virgin.
2. Everyone drinks.
& last but not the least
3.  Everyone lies.

& on another note:
You choose your lovers.
But you don't necessarily get to choose who your friends are.
No matter how many times your friends fuck up
If they're your true friend, you love them anyway.
Because without friends, getting through anything would be impossible.

Ex-Factor - Lauryn Hill

It could all be so simple
But you'd rather make it hard
Loving you is like a battle
And we both end up with scars
Tell me, who I have to be
To get some reciprocity
No one loves you more than me
And no one ever will

Is this just a silly game
That forces you to act this way
Forces you to scream my name
Then pretend that you can't stay
Tell me, who I have to be
To get some reciprocity
No one loves you more than me
And no one ever will

No matter how I think we grow
You always seem to let me know
It ain't workin'
It ain't workin'
And when I try to walk away
You'd hurt yourself to make me stay
This is crazy
This is crazy

I keep letting you back in
How can I explain myself
As painful as this thing has been
I just can't be with no one else
See I know what we got to do
You let go and I'll let go too
'Cause no one's hurt me more than you
And no one ever will


Care for me, care for me
I know you care for me

There for me, there for me
Said you'd be there for me

Cry for me, cry for me
You said you'd die for me

Give to me, give to me
Why won't you live for me