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Happy Mothers Day! You are so appreciated (even if your kids don't tell you.) And single moms with young kids who don't have daddy around to remind them to honor you today, on behalf of all your kids let me say THANK YOU.

Dr. Laura has a new book I saw at the bookstore yesterday called "In Praise of Stay At Home Moms". Sounds like a great and much needed book. If you have the privilege of staying at home and raising your kids, rush out and get this book today!

And Moms, lastly, I went to church  on Saturday instead of Sunday this week and heard an incredible Mom's Day sermon! You can see & hear it LIVE today online at www.Gatewaypeople.TV (at 9, 10:45 and 12 CT) or you can listen to it this week at www.gatewaypeople.com 

Have a great day and once again THANK YOU all moms.

Ladies, ladies, ladies...why does this news story not surprise me one bit? Drew Peterson was just arrested for the murder of his 3rd wife (previous listed as an accidental drowning). His fourth wife is still missing. And of course, Drew Peterson already has a fiance eager to be wife #5. This is not the first time I've known of women who clearly have strong evidence they are literally putting their life in grave danger yet choose to walk like sheep to the slaughter anyway. Think about your own life...are you doing something or pursuing someone in your life right now who you KNOW is dangerous for you, yet you are defiantly loving yourself TOO LITTLE to care?  Let's just be real, women who do this actually don't love themselves at all rather they actually hate themselves. If that is you... If you've never felt worthy of love, please pick up the good book today and go to the very middle of it and read Psalm 139! You were made for a reason and purpose and are loved by the one who created you! It's true!

Okay ladies, every once in a while a book comes along that is so empowering you have to read it in small doses, yet keep finding yourself coming back to it often until you’ve finished every word.  Get ready for the summer reader of the year. If you’re in a book club CHOOSE THIS BOOK! The Noticer is one of those gems. A follow up to Andy Andrew’s The Travelor’s Gift which I also enjoyed, this new one is his best yet, offering a depth comparable to C.S. Lewis’ The Great Divorce and Till We Have Faces. What is this book even about? Jones (not Mr. Jones), an old drifter comes through Orange Beach, Alabama and transforms lives by paying attention and simply noticing what is really going on in their lives. One by one he offers them a fresh perspective—something we ALL can use. It is a book of common wisdom pulled together through an amazing, moving tale that grips you from the opening page. You will find profound statements throughout this book that you will underline and ponder over and over. I am confident the wisdom shared will find relevance in your own life, such as page 13 “whatever you focus on increases;” of page 65 “It takes a truly wise person to discern that oh-so-thin line between good and best;” Page 110 “Change is immediate! Instantaneous! It may take a long time to decide to change…but change happens in a heartbeat;” Page 111 “Have you ever considered how often we judge ourselves by our intentions while we judge others by their actions?” And these are just the tip of the iceberg.

And for those of you in a relationship or WANTING TO BE in a relationship, one of his first pearls of wisdom covers the four languages of love, something we all ca benefit by learning or be reminded of! Pick up THE NOTICER and dive into the adventure of a new perspective!

You can have a fabulous AND dateless Valentine's day...here's how!

1. Okay, you have permission to do something to spoil yourself today. Don’t go crazy. Just give yourself one treat. Carve out time during your day, even if it has to be on your lunch hour, to pamper yourself. Here are some options:

a. French manicure

b. new hairstyle, color or cut

c. indulge in a massage or facial

d. buy yourself an clothes, shoes, purse….something at the mall that you have been dying to buy but holding back. Just don’t mess up your entire budget. You want to pamper yourself, not punish yourself.

2. This is NOT the night to go out to eat—too many couples gazing dreamily across the table at each other. Instead, order your favorite take out or skip dinner and have a huge portion of your favorite dessert. While you’re enjoying your meal, pull out your journal a design your ideal man. Dream big. Write every character trait and every quality you hope he will possess. Where will you live? How tall will he be? What will his career be? How will he propose? What will the two of you do in your free time? How many children will you have? Just go for it and dream your entire future with this man you are creating.

What better evening to do so than when Cupid is flying around? My personal list included that my man would believe I was the best thing to ever coming into his life! I had an entire list including his height and weight. Certainly there will be things on your list you can live without, just put the most important qualities at the top of your list and the negotiables toward the bottom. Finish off you evening with your dessert and a polished version of your Man Worth Keeping. Now keep this list with you at all time, be it in your wallet or daytimer, so you’ll recognize him when he appears.

3. Another idea for the evening is to plan a girls night. Invite over your single gals for dinner and your favorite chick flicks or better yet, reminisce with a purpose. Have each of your girlfriends write out one page on all their previous relationships including the good and bad qualities of each man. Cross out any character trait that is not repeated and circle the ones that are. THEN each girlfriend writes out a personal WANT AD based solely on the circled character traits. Be creative in your writing and have fun with this process. Have each girl read aloud the Want Ad they’ve subconsciously been putting out there to attract the men they’ve had thus far in their lives, you’ll laugh and cry at the same time.

4. GO TO THE MOVIES! Grab a friend or boldly go solo to the movie theatre

He’s Just Not That Into You

Bride Wars

Confessions of a Shopaholic

Curious Case of Benjamin Buttons

…or skip the romantic films all together and go for adventure with

Paul Blart, Mall Cop

Pink Panther 2  

Hotel for Dogs

Certainly one of these will entertain your mood. Valentine’s is the perfect night for escapism.

Here's to pampering yourself this Valentine's Day!